The problem with unhealthy relationships, is sometimes we are in them, and we don’t even realize it. We don’t even realize how much we are hurting; or that deep down we are constantly in a numbing state of pain. The thing we tend to forget, is what it’s like to be happy, or we forget or don’t realize that love isn’t supposed to feel this way. When you are with someone for a while, you can become quite desensitized to the unhealthy signs, and sometimes you may not even realize how truly unhappy you are. You tend to justify the unhappy feelings with how much you love them or how much they love you, or you justify the bad times with the “good” times. There are all different levels of unhealthy in relationships, from a lack of respect to abuse. But the most important thing, is to make sure you are not in a relationship where you are mentally or physically abused. Let’s take a look at some of the signs that you may be in an unhealthy relationship, and may be in need of relationship therapy in Carrolton…
They try and control you
If your partner often tries to get you to wear this, wear that, don’t wear this, don’t wear that, you shouldn’t do this, you should do that, doesn’t want you to go certain places or hang around certain people, these can be signs of them trying to control you. This is unhealthy and something to look out for in your relationship. It’s important that you have your independence and are able to freely be you, without their say.
They blame you for how you are feeling
If you are upset or emotional, they insist that it isn’t because of something they did, but because you are just too sensitive, etc.
They constantly bring you down or criticize you
They tend to always find something wrong with you. Instead of saying good things about you or finding something to appreciate, they seem to always find something wrong. They may even constantly criticize your family and friends as well.
They are unsupportive
They don’t support you at work, or in school, or with your family, or maybe with your friends. Anytime you have a new project or something going on, you don’t feel like they are rooting for you.
They make you feel low or insecure
They make you feel like you aren’t good enough for them, or for anyone. They may even tell you that no one else would put up with you or accept you.
There is jealousy or insecurity
One of you suffers from intense feelings of jealousy, and it often gets in the way of your happiness. You don’t feel secure in the relationship.
Breaking up and making up
You have had several instances where you have broken up or taken a break and then gotten back together.
They try and change you
They try and tell you that you need to change things about yourself, maybe things about you that aren’t even negative, but things that they don’t like.
If any of these symptoms seem like they may describe you and how you’re feeling with your partner, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If you are searching for relationship counseling in Carrolton, look no further. Here at Lifeworks we are a compassionate and caring team of experts who are ready to listen and help you put your best foot forward. Contact us today, and let us help you feel like you again.